Tuesday, 14 April 2015

FED UP!


(…continued…)


 “You really suffered o,” Mabel said.
  “It was not easy. My parents helped me a lot. They accepted two of you.”
  “We are their grand children na.”
  “Yes but the manner which you came, they initially saw it as shameful.”
  “Yes, I remember growing up with them.”
  “Yes, until I got somewhere to stay and moved out. They still helped me with money and food stuffs.”
  “The life of a single mother is not an easy one.”
  “Dealing with heartbreak is worse. Much worse.”
  “Men are just heartless.”
  “Not all of them. At least my father is a wonderful man.”
  “Yes, grandpa is.”
                They TV station that was on started giving news.  
  “Do you want to listen to the news?” Mabel asked her.
  “I am not in the mood for that now.”
                Mabel reduced the volume of the TV set.
   “Remembering those days gives me shivers,” her mother said.
  “At least we are consolations to you,” she said to her mother.
  “Yes my dear. I am glad whenever I see the two of you. You are bundles of joy. That is why I feel bad when I see you go through all these.”
  “So, how did you handle your own issue?”
Her mother thought for a while and said, “I did not do anything particular about it. I just made up my mind that men were all the same and not worth wasting time on. I focused on raising my kids and making ends meet.”
  “What about your feelings for men.”
  “It was a struggle then. Before I made up my mind about the men that were coming to me, I got into some other relationship, hoping they will lead to something meaningful. Most men withdrew when they realized I already had two kids. The few who hung on all wanted to sleep with me.”
  “That’s terrible.”
  “When it was difficult settling down, I decided to forget about it and raise you.”
                Mabel exhaled from her mouth and sunk into the couch. Her mother cleaned her eyes with the back of her hand. They were silent for a while. It was Mabel who broke the silence
  “What do you suggest I do about this?”
  “I think it is too early to block him off totally,” her mother replied. “You never know what really went wrong. The other girl could have bewitched him.”
  “I don’t think so. He has been acting strange long before now.”
  “How?”
  “He stopped calling me. He stopped hardly picked my call. He only spoke with me and visited when he wanted…”
  “to sleep with you,” her mother finished for her.
  “Yes,” Mabel said shyly. “I am a bad girl right?”
  “Not at all.  He was someone you wanted to settle down with. That is not to say it is right to do it before marriage. It is not.”
  “I know. Just couldn’t help it. I truly loved him.” 
  “Then just hold on and find out what exactly happened.”
  “Are you suggesting I call him?”
  “Well…”
  “Even though I still have feelings for him, I will not bring myself low for him at all.”
  “Don’t mind me. I am thinking like I was thinking in those days. Just move on with your life for the next few days and let his friends and your friends handle the situation.”
  “Ok. What if he comes begging?”
  “When we get to that bridge, we will cross it. Just don’t take decisions in haste.”
  “But this is not the first time.”
  “I am aware. That’s why I get worried when I see you going through the same things over and over again. The way things went on in my life and are now repeating in your lives is not good at all. Pastor will always call it vicious cycle.
  “Meaning?”
  “Meaning things that happen to people and continue with their children.”
  “What causes it?”
  “Many things could be the cause of it.”
  “Things like?”
  “Spiritual problem, personal mistakes, and maybe the way we present ourselves.”
  “I don’t really understand what you are saying. Can you explain further.”          
                Her mother paused for a while, then answered.
  “Pastor’s wife will be in a better position to explain.”
  “That means I will see her within the week.”
  “Let’s use the two approaches to deal with this matter. Let friends handle Segun while you see pastor’s wife and know what she will advice.”
                Mabel nodded in approval.

(…to be continued…)

-Chinedu Isaac

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